The very existence of a child in need of adoption was necessitated by tragedy. Each adopted or fostered child has experienced trauma in their lives. They have either forever or temporarily lost their primary caregivers and attachment figures. In this unstable environment, their attachment is likely to be insecure.
My plan A had been to grow our family the pregnancy-birth-baby way. Why wouldn’t it be? It’s all that I had ever known. Adoption was foreign to me. I wasn’t particularly against it, it just seemed like the kind of thing you do as a last resort. All the stories I knew were of people who tried to get pregnant, then tried IVF, and then when all else failed, started the adoption conversation. Adoption was Plan C.
On my darkest days, I cling to these truths: He created me, He knows me the best, He chose me, I am His beloved daughter, and He will never leave me or forsake me.
The worst conversation you can have is no conversation.
Only as the American Church becomes a whole body can we be effective participants to the heavenly nation.
Is she black?!
Black people lie!
As a people we are created by God, we all have souls, personalities, emotions, sins, sorrows, trials, joys, likes and dislikes. These things are all commonalities that transcend race.
If your friends come back to this church, we will have them escorted out.
Colin was white. Why did my son think he would have been a slave? It was like he didn’t realize that the historical American slave industry only targeted black people....
Oh no. He didn’t realize. This was something we were going to have to explain to him.
I write these tips below to the nearly-wed, the newly-wed, the 50-year anniversaries, and the hopefuls. This is an attempt to help you avoid some of the mistakes I have made myself or seen others make.
Do not be weary in doing well, for we shall reap if we do not faint; so, take courage, take heart and move forward.
The passion he expressed in his hopes to see such harmony amongst all people is nothing short of the soul of heaven. All I cared about was that I had to be more intentional moving forward.